Saturday, October 28, 2006


What in human terms are limits? It’s very difficult to comprehend and fix a certain definition or draw a boundary. It is something that has varied perceptions and diverse meanings. What may seem the pinnacle for one may just be the top of the tree for another where the sky is the limit.

It would be right to say that limits are a state of mind. What seems an impossible task may just be accomplished by one thought that nothing is impossible. Limits are not pre existent but created. It is something that is manmade. It is not difficult to merge the can and cant. The difference being the limit can be blurred. It is the perception of a person.

Many people have phobias of different sorts and kinds. Some are uncomfortable with animals, some with darkness, some with very crowded spaces and so on. For people to fight the phobia is a limit. The extent to which they test themselves to fight their fear could be called their limits. A test of endurance is also a limit. When your time is not yours and things seem haywire and against you, it’s your fortitude that’s the limit. A certain level of stress beyond which we break, the certain level is the limit.

When limits they say can stretch, they mean it’s the extent to which a person widens, grows and is ready to face a situation. Limits are set by people to achieve a certain goal and once achieved the limit extends further. The extension is limitless. Every person grows with every limit that is touched, with every limit surpassed and every limit conquered. Growth is subjective and every time the frontier of life is tested, and successfully overcome, it signifies the growth of a person and the victory over the limit.

Limit is the boundary, the perimeter, the frontier, and the edge, the maximum and ultimate level. All this is heard and faced by everybody in their life at different situations and times. The similarities in situations of many are uncanny. It is how you come out of this that determines you as a person. Evaluates you as an individual and concludes success. When we overcome the confinement is when we face the harsh realities of life and the way we handle and face this is what values us as beings.

Limits are positive and negative. It is wrong to define limits when it comes to the values, ethics, morals and other essentials to live the life to the best since the more you stretch the farther you get but it would be right to set limits in situations beyond which you know there is nothing to realize. Its good to dare but to dare to death would be futile.

Limits are only found in the mortal, physical self. The soul and beyond faces no such boundaries since it knows that limits are but a mere illusion. A farce so to say. There is no such thing as unachievable. Nothing is impossible. All it needs is hard work and determination. It is the focus like Arjuna’s focus on the bird on the tree that will enable passing all extents. Limits are inexistent once it comes to achieving what is ones goal.

A five-letter word like limit makes the person who they are, defines the individual and aids growth, growth both physically and psychologically. We evolve as stronger people to make a difference to and from what we were to what we are. It’s to challenge the limit that excites the normal life. It’s this challenge that keeps us on the move to achieve and succeed. Limits are omnipresent.


The human mind is very complex and dynamic. It wanders from one thought to another. This is when it seeks solitude. An inner calm to be precise. When thoughts flow, we flow along taking with us the power of action and reason. It’s the process of self-discovery.
This is when we desire to be by ourselves.

It’s the time you spend alone that gets your mind in action, to ponder bout the complexities of life and the things around us. This is when we think of situations we can handle, of the day spent, of the mistakes we can rectify, the times filled with joy and laughter and so on. In short, an introspection into the way of being. But is all this being alone or being lonely???

Well being lonely in the literal terms is being all alone. Without friends or foes, near and dear. But what if they’re all present and you chose to stay away?? Is that being lonely too?? One wonders. It’s either out of chance or choice. It is how we perceive it. It is a road we tread to be the way we want to. Even when all of us are happy and content there are times of low when we seek to stay by ourselves and wish for things unsaid. Times where thoughts uncalled for percolate through you.

Many great writers, painters and other respected men have chosen to remain unaccompanied while delivering to the world a piece of exquisite work that is honoured even today. Has been honoured through centuries. With examples like Shakespeare and Einstein, what could compliment the state of being lonely any further.

People often question if being lonely is the right thing. If it be similar to solitary confinement for a while. Is it right to be a recluse? I would say it is subjective. It is the comfort level that determines how happy or content you are. If being lonely helps then so be it. One of the perceptions that second being lonely.

Lonely, the state of agony and pain where there is no one to escort you, to understand you or even someone you can relate to. It is at this time that the want for people grows and the people you left behind to move forward in life are valued maximum. The need for warmth and care is at the pinnacle when you’re lonely. Even a smile from a stranger can make your day. To know the value of this ask a newly wed bride or a person who has left behind a fortune, a fortune not in terms of money but in terms of the relationships. They would relate to being lonely consciously, subconsciously or unconsciously.

There can be various inferences where lonely is attributed to solitude, abandonment, friendless, alone, isolated, recluse and so on, so forth…..every word has a deep meaning to it, a deep thought, a valid deliberation.

It is moments that decide who and what we are. When we are lonely it is then that we learn to grow to be a stronger, self reliant, self-dependant person. I say this because when we are lonely we are at a state where flipping would be the easiest way out. It is when we remain rooted is that defines us as an individual. That assures us a character. Overcoming or using loneliness and moving ahead in life is what determines success in life where it is about I, me, myself. The present way of life.

Loneliness is a power and virtue. Capitalizing on it will teach you to live and instill the power to grow and travel ahead. The road to development.

Sunday, October 22, 2006


Change is something all of us long for. It’s a way of life, a mode of being. In the world the only certainty is change. It comes in the smallest of ways. The only reality that cannot be disputed. By no man, by nothing else.

It comes in various forms. It could be a revolution that shakes the very foundation of existence, a small change in the way of living, an alteration in the manner of doing things, a transformation or an amendment. Anything and just about everything can be attributed to change.

A change in a persons income could increase or decrease the standard of living. The way of thinking, the way of looking at life changes. The monetary condition determines more than just what we can imagine. Its not only the change in economic status but also a change in the surroundings that helps a person grow and develop. The growth and development can either be positive or negative. In the end it’s the way a person wants to be. The way he looks at living.

As we grow we are fed with ideas and thoughts and develop a certain outlook. With every passing year, a progress in the way being. As years pass we collect more knowledge, are more aware of the current affairs and are brought to terms with reality. Something that hits hard when brought to light. And as we grow, we transform and develop a certain flat mindset. The perception of life changes at every stage of life. With this we change as people, seek a change in surroundings and also look out for certain attributes in life. All this brings bout what is called a change in life. This is probably why people who see us after a break see a change in all that we do, well almost every thing we do.

The reason memories grow is due to the change in circumstances and the individual we grow to be. With every passing phase we see so much, learn with every step we take and are nurtured with every situation we face. I would term the entire process as change. Memories signify the process of change; remind us from what we were to what we are. It is the certain driving force that can change the course of life when perceived in different lights. Again, a change!

A change is a difference in itself. As times progress change becomes inevitable. From the use of telephones to the development of pagers and the mobiles to the present day palmtops and ipods, all that we see seems an ocean of change. Till sometime back we saw that getting out of the country seemed the in thing but now travel abroad seems just a road away, specially after the advent to moon and mars. How times change. This is probably the biggest mystery unsolved. What seems to be reality at present tends to look like an illusion as time passes.

Change is what we can see, feel, hear and taste. I would say it is one of those few words that can be associated with all the five elements. Something rare and stunning. Think about it and………..


Who said answers follow every question…. Who said there was a light at the end of every tunnel? Who said that life has the answers to all problems…it makes us ponder whether there is any truth in what they say. I would say certain questions have no answers. None at all. It is the reply to these questions that is a mystery.

Life is but a mystery. It is a kaleidoscope of happenings. A mixture of emotions, thoughts, people, situations and a way of life. Who knows what the future beholds? What it brings with it and how it changes the course of life. A lot of queries remain unanswered. Man has since his evolution grown and developed to what he is today and as times have progressed he has in the quest for answers discovered, invented and produced his answers. But these answers provided are not even close to the obscurity that runs in the human mind.

Mystery is not just the unanswered question but also the events the take place in the everyday life. How does the brain work similarly in similar situations? Why do people follow a set pattern of working? How come the senses control us? Certain truth in life that cannot be deciphered. When a certain happening occurs, why does it take place the way it does and how is that the reactions that are seen are but similar in most situations? Again, the mystery of life.

How, what and who is God? Something that has caused wars, verbal disputes and taken lives of many. Is he the elements of the nature, is it the belief and good that resides within you or is it a stone you worship and believe or are they God men who are sent at various times to this blessed earth to preach and help people. These questions will remained unanswered for a long time to come since the perceptions and understanding varies from one to another.

Mystery not only lies in the fact that each day something new is spoken about but in the fact that everything is always present in the world but it is only at certain instances that it is found. Why does this happen? Is, a lot that is present hidden from the minds eye or is it that we never notice or heighten it. Again questions that remains unreciprocated.

Mystery is a very vast topic to be thought of since in everything we do or think there is an element of mystery. When a mystery is solved it only has two consequences. It either turns out to be a surprise or it turns to horror. Something that is not subject to precincts. Mystery is a part of all that we can imagine and more.